This time around I want to share some observations about people. Maybe you agree, maybe you don’t, but I think that most of you will get my point and if you take interest going forward you will see what I have seen. Let me start with ‘good people’, everyone and I do mean everyone thinks they are a ‘good’ person. Saving those with self denigrating psychosis. I think what we have to consider in such a notion of being good is that it is highly relative. Meaning a persons sense of being good is completely interpersonal. What good is is also interpersonal. What’s good for one is not necessarily good for another. Reminds me of the Hee Haw skit with Archie the barber telling a story about his great uncle who dies.
Relativity aside, I think all of you good people out there will acknowledge that ‘good people’ is a reference to people of a certain quality. Human beings versus animals. The best people avoid animal behavior and move toward rational unselfish behavior. The more mindful and less ego eccentric a person can become translates into the good people I am talking about. It is the person who puts your bull back in because he understands having a bull running at large. He is the person who stops to help you on the side of the road because he understands that there is no cell service and your stuck. She is the person who sees you are laid up and comes and brings food to you in bed. I think the good person is illustrated in others, not selves. You see good people in how they live with others, truly good people are aware of their surroundings and the people in them. In the example with the bull if a guy needs no help and can do it in 30 minutes he’ll tell you about it next time he sees you. He doesn’t need recognition or to gossip about how the bulls out. He just does it. In the example on the road, that person needs to see you there and recognize the problem, connect it with lack of services and call a stop to whatever he is doing to address your concerns. It requires interest in others, interest in circumstances and interest in the humanity part. In the example of being laid up a lot of you women probably balk at this example but here’s the rub. For the most part it is something all of you can do and the emotional caring that comes with it is therapy far better than the soup! The caring of a man is much different, matter of fact. I don’t believe that there is a man or a women alive that would choose a male nurse over a female nurse in the manner of caring. Sure one gets strength and action with one but emotional comfort is better medicine. A little far afield here but I think I’m putting is down fairly clear. Good people are first and foremost interested! Not in just what’s good for themselves but what’s good for everyone. Care about the outcome of another’s life. Are willing to take action to see that end.
When I come to the coast I see people competing for the prize tenaciously. Much of the time with complete disregard for others. Like two guys in a truck not giving way to vehicle attempting to pass even though they are holding up the line. This example I see constantly. As if someone passing you makes a bit of difference in your life. It is stressful just to watch and be a part of the goings on. Four or five months is about all I can take! And it’s hard to do even at that. Come late April I’m running to get away from it and go to Wyoming. Sure there are those there to but so fewer but what I find that makes all of the difference is the “one” who stops. That’s all it takes is the one and all hope is restored. One good person make life grand! Interested people who get involved are the good people! They make all of the difference. If you have not had a good person experience lately go seek one out. It takes interest and getting involved. Develop an interest outside of yourself and get involved. You’ll be happier, those with whom you get involved will be happier (provided your not just adding to their load) which will make us all happier!
Go be a good person today! Take an interest in something other than yourself and get involved! You need a good friend and he’s likely to be the next person you meet. Don’t delay, you need him as much as he needs you!
Be great,
Greg